when you first start seeing someone, how do you know when are guys are officially "dating"? is it right from the get go, or after a certain period of time, say two or three months? or is it only after you guys have had "THE TALK" and the dude asks you to be his girlfriend? (btw, girls cant ask dudes to be their boyfriends. its just unheard of really.) what is the difference between "hanging out" and "dating"? is there any? the only difference i can think of, is that when you are dating someone you aren't supposed to fuck around with other people. when you're hanging out, its pretty fair game. isn't that the universal understanding, or did i make that up in my head?
me and main piece are definitely just hanging out. i think, at least in MY mind. i mean i've had my fair share of play while we've been together. refer to here and here. HA. BUT i don't consider this to be cheating or anything of the sort because 1) we've only been seeing each other for a month, and 2) we haven't had any sort of discussion where we acknowledge that we're only sleeping with each other. thus i consider us to be only hanging out. he's definitely more than a night time friend though. we actually go on dates and hang out during the day, which you do not do with a night time friend. they are strictly for booty calls.
the other night we were hanging out and he casually mentioned something about us DATING. eek! it went something like, i was telling him how itchy my face was from his cat, and he said something like, well i'm sorry you're dating a guy who owns one. REWIND! WE'RE DATING NOW? WTF. when did this happen? i didn't say any of this out loud of course because i didn't want have THAT discussion right then. but in my head alarm bells and red flags were going off.
HE considers us to be dating? hmm...does it mean something more casual to him then it does to me? i would not mind if he slept with other girls. it's only fair. but does he think i'm not sleeping with other dudes? he hasn't asked and i don't want to ask him because then i'll have to tell him about side piece (who i actually went out of town to go visit last week!) and then he might decide he doesn't want to see me anymore. or he might want us to be exclusive and then i would have to give up side piece. either situation is lose/lose. i want it ALL! BLERG! i don't want to lie and i dont want to lead someone on but as of right now that seems to be what is happening. WHAT TO DO?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
to be continued....
-pussy galore
UPDATE 11.22 - so dude has not called me for daaaaaaaaaaaays! i asked him out to dinner on thursday and he said he was visiting his mom in the east bay, could he take a raincheck? friday, saturday, sunday, monday...and i have not heard a single peep from this dude! WTF. i am extrememly butt hurt here. this is what happens when you actually like someone. it never works out. AND i am pretty sure he didn't lose his phone this time! I HATE BOYS!!!!!!!! i am sticking to night time friends with no emotional attachment what so ever. i am going to go cry in a corner now.
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